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Welcome Friends to my blog about single motherhood and living for God. I hope that you find my thoughts and musings thought provoking and in alignment with God's word. Thank you for visiting and please feel free to share your comments and pass the word along to others who you feel could be blessed!

Thursday, March 6, 2008

The Power Of The Daddy's Girl

And will be a Father unto you, and ye shall be my sons and daughters, saith the Lord Almighty. 2 Corinthians 6:18.
daddy's girl graphic from art.com

Just how powerful is the daddy's girl bond?? We read so many stories and studies about how important it is for the health of a woman's self esteem for her to have an unshakable position as a daddy's girl. If there were ever any evidence as to the truth of this, then it is now unfolding in front of our eyes. Recently I wrote a few posts about the idolization of pop culture, and how it is detrimental to our young children. I wrote this post at a time when a certain pop star and family was having a virtual breakdown in front of the entire world. Every time you turned on the TV, or logged on the Internet, or even passed by the newsstands in the local supermarket, there was some type of news about this poor girl and/or her family. My heart went out for her, I prayed for her as if I knew her personally. I prayed for her children who so needed their mom to sit down and put them first. I followed the news about her not because I am a fan, but because I can see the strong hold that the enemy has on her life and how children look up to her and other stars in her position and it burdened me.

But then, an awesome thing happened!! Her daddy decided that it was enough to see his little girl drug through the mud, so he stepped up and did what should have been done a long time ago, against her will he took control of her life. He realized that she was not acting as a mature adult, but as a confused child. She was not choosing the right friends, nor was she making the right decisions, so he against her will, and in the midst of public scrutiny became the head of her life right now.

The outcome; well she has seen her children twice, she's sleeping, she isn't in the media crying for attention by doing outlandish things, and she seems to be regaining a small sense of peace and normalcy. If only she would embrace the power of being a daddy's girl to her heavenly father, I wonder then what her life could become.

I said all that to say this, little girls need that relationship with their daddies. And this natural need parallels our spiritual need to be a Daddy's Girl. Women who don't have a husband as the head will continue to need that unshakable relationship with their fathers. Also, we as women all need that relationship with our Heavenly Daddy to fill that void that the enemy is so longing to fill with detriments. If there is no biological father in your life, then I can only recommend that you deepen your relationship with your what I like to call the "True Biological Father"- (God). He only lent us earthly fathers, and since he created us I like to think of him as our biological father.
Just as I depended on my dad growing up, (and I still do) I depend on God even more. And I am grateful that my dad would always point me to my heavenly father, even if were something simple that he could fix. Every little girl should have this, but if this is not the case, then we as mothers need to be in a position that we can teach our daughters to fill that void by cleaving to the Almighty Father.

I could go on and on about a subject that has already been proven, but for this moment I want to share this snippet of encouragement that I received as I watched the progress of a troubled star unfold. Maybe, just maybe this will send a message to all other parents who feel the need to support rather than nurture and guide their children's dreams.

All in all there is nothing wrong with being a Daddy's Girl especially when your father is the All Powerful God.

Stay Blessed and Encouraged-smfg

Wednesday, March 5, 2008

The Mouths Of Babes

Children say the simplest, most funniest things. Over the weekend, we experienced weather in the 70's, then Monday it rained. Yesterday I woke my children up to a wonderful surprise, school was closed and it was snowing! They raised the blinds and shouts of cheer and joy were all I could hear. Mind you, I was not at all happy about school being closed, or at entertaining the idea of driving in the snow to work, but my daughters had the most candid conversation in the car, and it made me forget about all the grown-up worries that come with snow, traffic, and school closings. I could only just reflect in the awesome power of God who controls the weather along with my little simple life.

Below I give you the conversation between my daughters. My youngest loves to be called " "Chocolate Drop" and my oldest calls her self"Neenie Pooh". Half the time I can't remember what to call them so I call them Frick and Frak.

Anyway to make such a long story short, as I was dropping them off at daycare ( no snow day for mommy) they were on the phone with pa-pa telling him all about the snow. The conversation went something like this:

CD- "Is it raining at grannie and pa pa's house"

NP- "Nope , its only raining there"

CD- "Pa Pa ( yelling through the phone) I'm gonna call the news and tell the weather people to give ya'll some snow!"

CP- "It's not fair for you not to have snow. Mommy why can't the weather man give pa pa and grannie some snow, all they have to do is put that snow thing on the map?????? "

Needless to say, I corrected her letting her know that the snow comes from God, not the weather man, but still, its always nice to hear such a simple and honest explanation from a child's point of view...

Oh yeah , did I mention that it's in the high 60's today??? Only in Arkansas

Monday, March 3, 2008

Re- Post Guarding Our Focus

Hello Friends,

I know that lately I have been MIA and hopefully in the very near future I can share more as to my current situation. In the meantime, I was going through my older posts and this post jumped out at me. I hope it rejuvenates you on this Monday as it did me.

Isaiah 26:3Thou wilt keep him in perfect peace, whose mind is stayed on thee: because he trusteth in thee.

Guarding Our Focus

How does one stay focused when you don't really know what to focus on? Have you ever been in a situation that is so new and so uncharted that you don't even know how to even talk to God about it? Not to sound pitiful, but I am in such a bit of a pickle. I know that I need to remain focused on God and his will right now. However, I feel just as anxious and unfocused as my six year old does when her attention span shuts down! :)

Whoever said that remaining in God's will (while trying to remain focused on what He wants and not what you want) is easy needs to come and see me like right now! Because I am realizing today, more than ever that when you are used to being in control and you release your control you have to completely walk away from it. I almost feel like I did when I left my newborn off with my parents for the first time. Now I knew she was in good hands but I felt the need to keep calling and coming by to check on her, and who better to take care of her than the ones who took care of me??
It is exactly the same situation when we take our problems, concerns, desires, and burdens to God. We have to drop them off at the cross and keep walking, never looking back until we are told or called to come back to pick up our blessing or answer. Meanwhile, we must focus ourselves on things other than what we left in his hands. This my friends is the test.So today, I have resolved that I am going to keep my mind off my newborn- because that is how I feel about what I have given to God. I will walk away, I will find something to do for Him, I will take care of myself, I will not idolize it, I will throw my focus on my family. I will not keep thinking about it, I won't ask God how it is, or when is a good time for me to pick it up. I will guard my focus because in the end I know that It shall be and it is well ( II Kings 4:22-26) .

I have posted below my favorite passage of Scripture:
Matthew 6:32-34 (For after all these things do the Gentiles seek:) for your heavenly Father knoweth that ye have need of all these things.
33But seek ye first the kingdom of God, and his righteousness; and all these things shall be added unto you.
34Take therefore no thought for the morrow: for the morrow shall take thought for the things of itself. Sufficient unto the day is the evil thereof.